Guidelines for the Sidelines
Supportive Actions
- Cheer and applaud great effort and great plays by ALL players.
- Cheer and clap for a goal regardless of which team scores.
- Compliment players for nice passing.
- Bring a chair, sit, and relax! Sit on the sideline opposite of your team’s coach. Where possible, place your chairs no closer than three feet from the painted sideline.
- Ask your child if they had fun at the end of the game or practice. Compliment them with specifics: “Great hustle out there,” “I’m proud of the way you defended,” “Your passing was awesome today.”
Actions to avoid
- Cheering only for your child.
- Pacing up and down the sidelines.
- Standing behind the goal or along the end lines of the field
- Providing ANY form of coaching or instructions during a game, or a practice. Many times, spectators give players instructions because they believe they are right, and the coach is wrong. Other times, parents are “just trying to help.” Allow players to figure things out and allow coaches to coach.
- Coming on to the field if your child falls down or gets hurt. The referee should blow the whistle. If the injury is serious, the referee should allow the coach to come on to the field. A parent should meet the coach as he or she brings the player off, if necessary.
- Addressing the referee in any way other than to compliment him or her. Referees don’t begin a game with bias. They are there to use rules and judgment to make calls and keep players safe. Like all humans, referees make mistakes.
- Never shout at referees during games, call fouls from the sideline, use poor body language (flailing arms, etc.), use poor language or moan loudly. During the game, at half time, and/or especially after the game, never approach a referee to question a call or ask for an explanation.
- These confrontations escalate or initiate unexpected conflict, and they never work out the way you intend them to work out.
- Criticizing your son or daughter’s play. “You need to….” “If you would just….” “You can’t ______ if you expect to be great.” “____________ scores goals. Why can’t you?”
- Whether it’s during the play or in the car ride home, you should find compliments and encouragement at this age.
- Players of critical parents take on considerable pressure and are taught not to enjoy the game.
- Find ways to help your child deal with social adversity or motivation.
It seems that there are far more actions to avoid, doesn’t it? It also seems strange that it’s so hard to simply cheer without ever getting frustrated or allowing your own competitive nature to get in the way of being supportive. Cheering and being a positive support to everyone typically lead to positive growth. Negativity and actions that we should avoid have far more serious implications.
Soccer should always be fun for both players and parents.